Growing through the challenges.

Yesterday, we traveled from South Carolina back home to Tennessee. We got to ride on the small opening of the Blue Ridge Parkway (the rest is closed from COVID). The portion of the parkway we rode was BEAUTIFUL.

The first time I rode on the parkway we got lost and stuck on there for hours, 5 to be exact. We were 3 hours late on our original arrival time… We saw a baby bear in the middle of the road (just as surprised as we were), ran into an old acquaintance from over a decade ago at a random restroom stop, and got to stop and hike at the highest point of the parkway. It was a great trip until we ended up at the top, at 9 pm, with no cell service to lead us home… Thankfully we chose the right side of a fork in the road to lead us out and back to civilization. I remember laughing but being pretty nervous we were going to run out of gas on the parkway and have to sleep in our car…

Today gave me some perspective. When I was on the parkway previously, I had a lot of anxiety and parts of my life that seemed to be falling a part. I remember riding and observing the trees, water, landscape, and realizing I was focusing on the wrong things. I was so heavy from multiple outside sources… I carried burdens that I was not meant to carry (both from myself and others). I remained silent through that struggle and worked through those emotions the best I could on my own (and I am certainly a talker). Today reminded me of how low I was when I had previously been there and how good I felt at that particular moment today. A moment where I thought I would never break through the silence and there I was, back riding the parkway. Happy, Healthy, and Growing.

Life is spontaneous, whether we want to describe it as that or not. We never really know what will happen. Constantly losing, gaining, taking, leaving, growing, arriving… Life is about riding that wave of uncertainty and how inspiring can it be? I know a lot of us feel lonely at times and then have times where being alone is all we long for. Where is the happy medium you ask? It’s where you are and finding out how to remain there. Feeling those feelings immediately and embracing them with open arms (even if they aren’t the best).

I can’t relate to everyone and I certainly don’t try to but I can relate to the feel of uncertainty and not knowing what is ahead. What would life be like if we actually knew everything God was leading or building for us? Would we still embrace those gifts and opportunities as we do when they arrive now? Probably not.

I’m thankful for today and small moments to realize how far I have grown. I pray for anyone going through a challenging part of life to embrace it and stand strong in the waiting. It too shall pass. We got this!

XO- Love, Joy, Happiness

The question of why me?

I began this blog as an outlet, which I clearly lost sight of… I should have kept it up and I plan to do so. Again, I have been working for the last three years as a Division 1 assistant coach and am transitioning out of coaching currently. A part of me wants to stay in it, fight for the passion, and a part of me feels as if I’m being lead somewhere else. Now, this could mean somewhere back in the same profession or it could mean I am meant to lead elsewhere.

I have always been told “you’re so good with athletes” “you’re so kind and helpful” “you’re very good at what you do” and yet, here I am moving towards a change and down a different road.

So me being a human being, I first feel sorry for myself (as we all do to some degree). And then I am soon reminded by no one other than God himself that I need to be where my feet are.

He sends me very simple reminders: a random text from a friend, unpacking a box and finding a picture of a time I was happy or sad (always a good reminder either way), having my newly-blind dog find his way to me while I’m crying (will post my dudes story soon)…
Whatever it is that reminds me, I know that a lot of people struggle with change. We struggle with our identity… WHO AM I? WHO AM I MEANT TO BE? WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?

I am currently changing my identity and let me tell you, it HAS NOT been easy.

My newish fiancé is really trying to find common ground with my highs and lows but she is still here, oh did I mention I am engaged to another woman? Not that this is an issue by any means but my identity has always been something I had to figure out by myself. In the here and now, WHERE MY FEET ARE.

My workouts, my food, my writing, my reading, decisions I make, friends I choose to call… all of these needs to align with what I want. Where I am.

I am excited about my future;
We are moving in together, we are newly vegan (will post about at another time) and we are newly engaged (I can also add our engagement story in another post). And I am finding out what I am made of, outside of collegiate athletics… which has consumed my life for the last 21 years.

At the end of everyday,
God is so good. He gives me grace and He will continue to lead me and my heart – and for that I am thankful.

Love, Joy, Happiness Always (well most of the time)

Seeking Joy in ALL THINGS.

Welcome to my public journal, both terrifying and exciting!

I want this journey to be relatable and to be an outlet for myself and anyone reading. Hopefully whoever is meant to read these will end up here, right here with me.

I want to give you some background on my why (briefly) I’m sure you’ll get a little why in every post from this point forward.

I’m here writing to you because who doesn’t struggle with lack of confidence, feeling completely overwhelmed with the occasional WHY AM I HERE AND WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING HERE syndrome? Where our highs are feeling lifted, overcoming obstacles, fighting through any and all adversity…

I can’t say I have completely worked through all of these feelings, I am working through these daily. What I do know is that I’m growing and I am ready for a new season of my life with Him leading the way.

“Whatever you focus on grows. A negative mindset gets deeper and more toxic. A positive mindset brings abundance and gratitude. Choose wisely.” -s.mcnutt